Just want my H back

[avermont]

I'm sorry to hear you are in so much pain, hhh. We have all felt that range of regret, sorrow, anger.

Wow.

The finance thing: I guess, ask yourself: what is best for me? It does seem right that you get back some of the support you offered H over the years. I understand the fear that it seems like the worst thing you can do in terms of any possible R.

But yes, that is operating out of fear, not out of what is best for you.

I don't know about the friendship thing. Other wiser posters have written about it. One certainly wants to have a civil relationship; it's horribly sad to think that may be all you may ever have, but ask yourself--would you be friends with a FRIEND who treated you like this? (maybe I will ask myself that!)

Please believe this is a downhill on the rollercoaster--there will be an up soon.

Remember how far you have come. You will keep going.

Peace--