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[Gnosis]

Why ain't it jujitsu ?

I was talking about the transparency. Transparency comes in when they want to reconcile. So far it it looks like her one foot is still out the door.

I'm sticking to the "It's your choice" and stopped pursuing her?

And that is good.

She told him, I heard it now how hard a$$ do I need to be about it?

We don't have enough details about what happened after the meltdown in the bathroom and the phone call to answer that question. This is why I asked you for those.

She has been around here- nowhere to go.

And that's why she's still there... nowhere else to go... FOR NOW.

I'm asking you...

Why the sudden change of heart?
What has she done to show you a change of heart?

Found out that they did not verify her employment. Which shows it was a premeditated firing.

Her problem.

She did not have a lease house to go to.

Her problem.

She has been using the office to work on resume, job hunting. Just letting her get that part back on track.

Why?
So she can find her feet and carry on walking out of your M?
I thought you wanted to reconcile?

MIL was rushed to hospital on Monday, she is nearing the end of the battle with COPD.

I'm really sorry to hear this OB. The timing really sucks.

I went out Saturday night, had a good time. And lot's of kids stuff. Kinda like an in home seperation. Not doing much together.

And this goes to prove everything I told you. She still wants out. She knows OB is a little old softy... a knight in shining armor... who comes to her rescue no matter what she does or intends to do. A doormat.

Had an interlude one night but I think that was a spill over from emotional Friday. She has hugged me a couple of times but I'm not pursuing anything just watching where it goes.

Stop watching. She is placating you and giving you something to shut you up until she can get all her ducks in a row so that she can walk again.

Do you want to know why I'm saying this? BECAUSE:
1) She is showing NO remorse
2) She is not taking the necessary steps required for reconciliation.

All she did was call the OM to call it off... in front of you. I say... "Nice show, toots... now prove it!" How many times have we seen nice guys get the wool pulled over their eyes with that move. Get their hopes up... sing and dance a jig... and then end up worse off than they were before.

Listen OB, I would like nothing else more than to join the crowd singing. "FINALLY! Another Divorce Busted!! Wooooohoooo." I really, REALLY, REALLY would. But we know that these things don't get turned around like this overnight. I wish they did, but they don't. There is a process to DB'ing and there is a process towards Piecing. I don't think you're anywhere near piecing yet.

Give us more details and if we see the signs we can guide you there.