Not sure which way to go anymore

[williaij]

Mystik,

I feel for you right now. I think that your IC's idea of writing for you might be a good outlet. Have your read through you post? You have been given some good advice. There are gaps in your sitch that make it hard for me to suggest any ideas for you.

How much have you been GAling, detaching?

I have been given some good advice. A few thoughts come to mind:

Don't believe anything of what H says and only 50% of what you see.

I want to talk to him, to lay it all out for him.

What can he say that you are going to believe? He could say all of the things that you want to hear but he is still living his other life with "tramp". How much can you believe?

You are Dbing for you and your DS5.

If not, then fine, at least we tried. But if so, then we can figure out from there what the next steps should be.

This may make you feel better.

Don't make decisions out of fear.

But I'm afraid to do it, afraid of what he might say. At least with the unknowing I have a security blanket to cling to, of the dream of him coming back.

You can't control whether he comes back or not, you can only control what you do and say.

And all this brings me to my current dilemma: I want to talk to him, to lay it all out for him. Tell him that what I want it so do the Retrovaille weekend in Utica in March, then go from there on if we think our marriage can be saved or not.

I have been through Retro. and if I am remembering right our Retro. (Atlanta) would not allow couples to come if either party was in a R with anyone else. I don't know if that is a local rule or if it were to apply to all of Retro.

Keep posting and keep reading.

You are worth it. Do it for you and your DS.

Will