When we had our "nice" discussion yesterday, one of the things I brought up was my need for individualism and my desire to sever the R as much as possible because I want to focus on myself and my new life. (I said all of this in a nice, confident and respectful way.) She was worried that meant I no longer wanted to be friends with her. My response was that we realy never talk or do anything togther and that is not really friendship. We are getting a D and it is what it is. I did not tell her I do not want to be friends but just implied D and friendship are really not compatable, at least in my sitch.
I guess what I did was outline some more strigent boundaries and expectations that I have and how I want our R to be...friendly and respectful.
So she comes over tonight to pick up the kids. We had a brief discussion about the kid exchange and then she asked me if I wanted to go out to dinner with her and the kids...What the hell!!!
They just do not seem to get it. They want our friendship to make them feel better about all their bad behaviors. Are they looking for forgivess from the one's they are hurting? or are they just so shallow and single minded at this point in the game they do not have a clue what they are doing? Then again, maybe I'm over anlyzing the crap out of this and she just wanted me around to fulfill her family need.
