Avermont, when it comes to the blouse and any other way that you present your self, it comes down to either one of these: "This is the real me" or "I'm trying so hard"
Obviously you're going for #1: being your best, authentic self . Only you know how you'll feel in that blouse -- no one else can decide that for you, IMO.
You're in such a different sitch than me with having so little contact. The down side is few opportunities for him to see the positive you that is emerging, but the up side is that you can GAL without constant contact wearing on you, and he gets a chance to actually miss you. I do remember a friend talking about breaking up with her BF, but then occasionally seeing him and hearing about him and thinking to herself: "wow, he's finally being the guy that I want him to be all along". Due to the OM my friend didn't reconcile with her exBF, but she did have some regrets. I could see how in the right situation even occasional contact could lead to positive shifts over time.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. Only you know how you'll feel in that blouse -- no one else can decide that for you, IMO. 
