Moving back in

[flowmom]

You're right. Now that that's out of the way do you want to be right or married?

I'm not sure if its the way you write, your just venting or if you are really angry. Its completely understandable if your angry but hopefully your not communicating this to your W.

I agree that she should feel the consequences of her actions. However, its not up to you to ensure that she does.

I have to agree with this. Obviously the jewelry party is an excuse to not go forward with something that no parent would relish. Clearly it's her job to step up to the plate and own her choices, but maybe this is an indication that she is not as clear as it appears? I'm not saying that boundaries are unnecessary here, but in the short- and long-term fueling your anger at her will not serve you or your goals.