So it was suggested to me that it might be a good idea to bust my wife's EA and see what happens. I know she has wanted to keep him a secret from pretty much everybody and has asked me not to speak of our problems with our mutual friends. Of course this is usually followed up by her saying she hasn't talked to anyone about us...I figured this was a good place to post this question...I was specifically told to look for posts from Gucci and puppydogtails but I want to hear from everyone who has knowledge in this area and how to handle an EA. Thanks so much...
Also how badly could this backfire...I want to do the best thing...