It's funny isn't it - of course, it isn't really - how life is.
I can identify with the H's under stress to provide well financially. I did really well in the early part of my career, had a dramatic return to earth or a couple of years, and have spent the last 5-6 running my own business. It was immensely hard at the beginning.
I can rememeber the stresses and resentments, coupled with the anger towards W over our M issues and SL. The dam burst a couple of times. In the end, I just focused on what I could do work wise. In a weird way, this helped drive W into her A fog later.
On an objective level, it also intrigues me on hindsight how the could-have-been WAH I might have been should have gleefully walked away when the A broke, and the mixed feelings I have about things even after.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.