I think you're on the right track there, Cathy. I know that for a long time CJ was sure that "coming back" to our M would mean him being the whipping boy, him suffering daily attacks/queries/suspicions.
I think we actually had a conversation fairly early on in which I assured him that while I DID have some questions and feelings to work through...it was NOT my intention to make him suffer, nor to make this the central theme of our M.
No grand changes right away...but he DID start opening up and softening his stance toward me and our M.
