Mixed Signals or is this Limbo Land

[Cie la vie]

MHL,

I'm curious about how much contact verbal or otherwise you have with your W since she moved out. My W is in the process of moving out and we have temporary custody arrangments in place at least for the month of Feb. We have nannies M-F from 8-6 and most of the handoffs will be between nanny and parent.

The reason I ask is I would prefer to limit my contact with my W as much as possible. If I could I would go pitch black on her. My primary reason is to allow myself to fully detach as much as possible. In addition I want her to experience her new life as fully seperated from me as is possible as well. I've come to the conclusion that my W has definitely noticed my 180's because she can't not notice and she doesn't really care one way or the other. She has never commented or acknowledged the efforts I have made to correct the problems she stated were the reasons for filing, of course the A was hidden from this conversation and discovered later.

I also realize that the best thing for me moving forward is to keep up the 180's and GAling not for her but for me as they do make me a better person overall. It becomes increasingly apparent to me that my W whether she is a WAW or an MLCer (or both) has no intentions of changing her mind about divorce. It's going on four months and I haven't seen or documented a single event that would suggest otherwise.

My intentions are to continue to be friendly and cordial anytime I must see or speak with her. I just want those times to be far and few between.