I was SOOOO glad to hear your H's response to you about clearing the cell phone #'s. Before reading that, I as all pumped up about how he NEEDS to be an open book right now
(CJ BOUGHT our caller ID system right after the final bomb as a gesture of good faith...to this day all the #'s of the day are sitting there when I get home...gosh I haven't checked them in MONTHS!).
But apparently your H beat me to the punch!!!
Now that's some GOOD communication...you didn't make him feel all defensive and HE didn't make YOU feel like you were controlling or suspicious. WEll done!