Can I save my marriage?

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SORRY, my computer is still not back. Its so hard to check this and update my sitch and others as well. Cant' wait for it to get back!!!!!

I'm at work now, only have a minute.

Situation not good. My H is treating me like a roomate. I actually told him that the other day and that I don't want to be his roomate. He flew off the handle and threatened to leave again. His exact words were " It will suck for Marek, and it will suck for Talan, but at least then i don't have to put up with this crap"

I didn't know how to respond. I was scared to death. The original conversation started when I told him we needed to talk. Since H got home, things have been okay, so days better than others but overall well. Then the past week, there has been no affection whatsoever. Which hasn't happened since he came home. It was odd to be and bothered me, so i brought it up. He got upset, said this is the reason why he left in the first place...which doesn't make sense.

Since the talk, things have gotten a little bit better, but not like they have been since coming home.

He has been gone alot. Very busy schedule lately, with work, and hockey.

Does not make time for me at all. More to story, just no time to get it in now. Very dissapointed, and stressed out.

Scared to death to make boundaries, as soon as I bring up any feelings or problems I may be having, he has not consideration and blows up.

He just wants me to be the "perfect wife" in his eyes. Do everything for him, take care of him, do his laundry, make his meals, take care of his children, give him intimacy when HE wants it, do things with him when he feels like his is having a "family" day, and when he wants to run around like a single man and go for drinks three times a week and not invite me I am supposed to be okay with that too. Its getting upsetting.