Hi T2, I'm so glad to hear you sounding SO positive! It's wonderful that your H is letting you in on an area of his life that he kept to himself all these yrs. He's really coming around. So many things going in the right direction for you now. I have a question for you. When you and your H started getting serious about getting back together, was he hesitant about saying he wanted to come home? I said something to my H tonight as we were parting about not liking us going to two different places. I asked him if he felt that way, and he said "sometimes." I hate that word! I mean he is acting commited in every way and nicer than he's been since I can't remember when and being very affectionate. We're getting along great-ever since I laid it all out in a two hr marathon of raving at him for not being straight with me in the past. He's assured me I can trust him. He is suppose to tell OW there can be NO contact. No talking on the phone-nothing. As of 3 days ago he had not talked to her. I don't like that he's seemingly procratinating about telling her. I plan on sharing with him Matilda's story about her H's EA and how they handled that. Her H. involved her in the whole process of getting rid of the OW. He has told me he'll tell me when he tells her. It's been a week now. I'm wondering if she's called him. Like you, I hate the cell phone. I can't get ahold of his to see anything. I'm not even sure how to work it. I'm not sure he keeps it on when we're together. Another talk I want to have. He wants me to trust him-he has to earn it, and take steps to show me he's not hiding anything. At first I wanted him to call her with me on the line. I'm not sure he'll do it, but it would go a long way to show me he's sincere. If he's ending it forever, what difference does it make? He needs to care more about my feelings now right? I don't want him to feel comfortable living in his own apt, seeing me all the time,but not commiting to living with me. I know we can't right now because our S would be very upset,but still I want him to WANT to come home. We've been apart long enough. What can I do to make him want to live with me again?? How did your H get to that point? He wants me to come over in the morning. I want to go to bed with him and wake up with him. Nagging won't help. I have to make him WANT to come home. But How????? Have a GREAT weekend. Keep up that PMA! Rachael
