Perhaps I could have articulated it better. If my articulation was hurtful then I will certainly take accountability for it.
I feel that often times WE ALL are so bent on wanting or making our WAS to feel consequences we often forget lack of action (and I include myself in this) on our part to avoid unpleasant consequences on our end goes forgotten.
Kevin gets REALLY sad when he takes a personal hit, especially when he feels his W will frown upon it. To avoid that, IMO, it seems there are many actions he can take to wipe that issue out for the long haul.
Thanks guys. I appreciate the help. Jon, I will get that unemployment taken care of. That is helpful information. So far I have been sending out resumes left and right this afternoon since getting word of this. I have been in contact with 2 agencies. There is a lot of ground to cover. This is sink or swim time for real. This isn't a game. This is life. Unemployment will help if all else fails. But I intend to line something up as fast as possible.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I have no plans of telling my W about this. I am handling this all on my own. I am and was in agreement there.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I can't apply for unemployment benefits today. It says I have to wait until I have given my agency 3 days to find me something else. I have already contacted them.
VD, can you send me an email. I am at yahoo.com and the first part is what my username on here used to be. I appreciate it if you can.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
If finances are separated, then there is not as much reason to tell her. However, finances are not split (although they should be) and it sure seems like keeping a secret. And secrets are almost always found out with much bigger fallout. Just remember Jack Tripper on Three's Company - every time he lied or kept a secret, it back fired worse on him.
I will pay my bills KerryK. But I don't think there is any reason she needs to know this right now. If I can line something up before she needs to know, it will be better I think.
I don't need to give her one more reason to doubt me. Lord knows she holds enough reasons to not come back against me.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
