Is there any hope for me with my kids? Is there anything I can do to recover lost ground? I am a dad who thinks he blew it. I hope it's never too late to close the gap with my kids. I have blown it with them in the past. Hopefully, as long as my kids and I are breathing, I'll have a second chance. Hopefully, my story as a dad isn't finished.
There are few things as bitter as regret.
Your statement above is ripe with helplessness. That this is permanent and won't or can't be changed.
WRONG!
First, you must believe that yes, there is hope. If you don't start from there, then there is no hope.
Next, you must realize that where you are now is not permanent. You can not predict the future, for yourself or anyone else, so why think and dwell on there is no hope of something ever changing?
Knowing that, allows you to maintain a positive attitude in the first place. Without it, you will be hard pressed to make any progress, and stay stuck in helplessness.
Regret is a useless emotion in my opinion, as it keeps you stuck where you are.
How about acknowledging that you made mistakes instead, resolve to correct them, which you have because you can not change the past, and work on a positive attitude for change for the future so you don't repeat the mistakes of your past?
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
