Hi T2, I just caught upon your new thread. I really like it,and the concept behind it. We have to learn how to get our own needs met. That means approaching our H's differently than we did before; you remember, the way it DIDN'T work. Remember not to fall into old patterns. Real change is HARD WORK, but as long as you are aware of what your doing, you'll catch yourself before you need to call in the damage control squad. Just keep remembering that all this is normal in reconciliation. We all think ours willbe different, and out H's will come back new men. I think first we have to be new women. I'm so haopy for you-you'll make it, I know you will! Rachael
