Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Lost - thanks, yes it is tough with W being emotionally unavailable, but I guess easier than when she was so furious at me she wouldn't talk to me. Don't rush, got to continually remind myself of that, that is the tough part.

Rocked - you are my hero today! Those are all things I can actually do. I can't follow all the "book" methods because of sitch with both in high profile jobs and we have all the same friends and young kids and a schedule (work and required social events) that makes most people cringe.

BUT...I can do those things you suggested. Music is a good one, in fact I forgot to mention that. When shopping last night, W asks me if we need an itunes card, how much is left on our balance. I told her that last night I added our last $15 card but I promptly spent $10 of it. She asked what on and I told her I donwloaded the album of ____. There was quite the quizical look - because it is a different type of music for me, but an artist she told me about a while back. I have started listenting to different music and I will find times to start playing them. Blackberry, that is easy. Kids if she knows she is going to be late - check, I can do that one. Ice cream - yep - thought about doing that last night, but decided I would save it for when things were maybe in more of a lull...I had quite a few things little things over the past couple of days. Cologne - she hasn't noticed that she has said, though I leave it out next to my sink, don't know how perceptive she is of my stuff, not sure I would notice something new next to her sink.

If you have any more of those great little ideas, I am all ears.

Now the not as good news of the day...some stuff came down on potential positions for upcoming summer move for both of us. One of the jobs, W should consider jumping at...she's not so sure...so this has potential to lead to talk of the future and/or R. Not good. Will have to try to avoid at all costs. Job would entail long hours of work which I speculate might be frightening her (hard for a single parent), but on the other hand she has told me before that she wants a job that continues her on the path for more promotions since she doesn't think we will be together...so that would mean one of these types of jobs with longer hours. It can't go both ways, but I sure wouldn't want her making a final decision right now, because I think the decision would be D.