Thanks OP! I really needed to be reminded to keep expectations at zero.
You need to remind yourself of this daily.
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The phone call from him last night was truly pointless for him to make. I, as well as confidants that know about the whole situation, see it as a bit of an excuse to speak to me.
This often happens. I have been D'd for roughly nine months and this has been going on for a couple of years. I received four phone calls last night alone. Each involved and single question mixed with small talk.
DO NOT be available all of the time. Do not take every call.
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For now, I'm standing still and waiting....
If you wish to wait, good for you, but do NOT, I repeat do NOT stand still. Make positive changes, try something different. (a new experience) it doesn't have to involve someone else. This is YOUR time to learn, grow and become a better person.
You must change as well in order to make it through this. Both of you need to change.
