Too bad you didn't divide those finances. If you are unable to find a job right away it will be obvious as you will not be able to contribute to the "plan" you and her have now with money.
If you had your own finances it might be a little easier to keep temporary unemployment as your own private matter.
See how NOT taking action, which you view as action AGAINST your W, really only hurts you?
I couldn't care less about what W said! This happens all the time. Hang in there!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Yo CG, Kevin got some pretty clear advice from FaithfulH to NOT divide the finances, and he made his decision. You're starting to come across pissed when he follows others advice instead of yours. Helpful?
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Pump your W for info like she does to you and find out what jobs she is up for. She uses you for info all the time. So, do the same and compete against your W for the jobs she has in mind.
Thanks. I can send my resume to you if it would help. Yes, contracts end in IT which we are both in.
Jon, TrentC, CG, and SO2,
It was unexpected. I had been looking for another position, but this came out of the blue. At least I have a week and a half to work with. And I have some money from savings I can pull if need be. I will also look into unemployment if worse comes to worse.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I didn't realize only Faithful was allowed to offer opinions.
Some decisions are temporary and some are permanent. And sometimes you have to change decisions based on real life circumstances. It's how life goes.
I have probably spent more time posting to Kevin than anybody. Helpful is rather subjective, no?
I think my advice is helpful. I think the people that cheer on Kevin for making mistakes that will harm his future (and I don't mean as far as the marriage goes) are not very helpful. Obviously we all think our advice is helpful or we would not take the time to offer it.
Kevin wants more than anything for his W to feel consequences. Fine. In turn though he is so busy with that thought pattern he rarely thinks of his OWN consequences. And now a big one is coming up.
When you are in the thick of your own mess (generally speaking) it is not easy to see what is obvious.
And if you would like to address me I would appreciate if you would do so in another way other than "yo". CityGirl is fine. Nicole is fine. Nic (what my friends call me) is fine. You pick.
Yo CG, Kevin got some pretty clear advice from FaithfulH to NOT divide the finances, and he made his decision. You're starting to come across pissed when he follows others advice instead of yours. Helpful?
I must have missed the post where FaithfulH advised not to split the finances.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
Unemployment is extremely high nationwide. People who manage to hold onto their jobs through this recession will be incredibly lucky.
I understand that it's a shock. I'm just not sure why her opinion of your financial stability is important, unless it affects support and/or visitation.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I will also look into unemployment if worse comes to worse.
Why wait, you worked, you got laid off that's what it's for...There's absolutely no shame in filing...Heck if I was you I would start the paperwork today since you know your end date (that's what I advise my contractors to do), why would you give up that money?
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
I don't know if unemployment works the same in all states but here it takes a LONG time to kick in. You should file the paperwork ASAP because it could be weeks before you see any pay.
