rr22 you hit the nail on the head. I am so attuned to my H's feelings that I go up and down with him. I'm working on it. I'm terrible at detachment. I had a really emotionally unstable mom and I've learned to always have my feelers out so that I can walk on eggshells. It's a self destructive pattern, but one I've been trained to do.
I'm working really hard on not reacting negatively to what H feels, says, does. STaying positive about myself instead of feeling I need validation from him. In other words, if he seems to reject me, I need to not take it personally, and let myself know H needs to handle his own feelings. rr22, I think your H needs this too!
