Willaij, thank you. It' helps to know that people can change, and that change can take a long time. It's tough that the things we need from the other might be the hardest things for them to do.
My H seems to be soaking in the MC ideas too - he hasn't come as far as you but yesterday he said things like "I'm not interested in assigning blame, I just want to understand what happens because I don't understand where we get stuck" and "I'm just talking from my experience, you can talk from yours" thing like that - he's really trying.
