Future - I am not trying to be unkind because I get how horrifying this is but you MUST start thinking the other way.
You are thinking about things from YOUR end and you need to start thinking of things from HER end.
You thought you were being a good guy and doing all you could to save your marriage and protect your children. I get that. But the reality of it is you consented to all kinds of things despite your desire to save your marriage.
