I know, I know :-(. I should have agreed to nothing. I was so bloody ignorant of everything, and I was so emotionally devastated, I screwed up, I know it. I didn't start paying her support right away, it wasn't until we started mediation and we came up with a number, about six months in. Prior to that our finances were still together, and she was charging the kids' expenses on a joint credit card, which I paid. She was then paying me a fixed amount each month to cover her bills, which I was still paying.
Regarding abandonment, I believe I can sue her for constructive abandonment, meaning she ended our physical relationship at least one year prior. As I said, should be a slam dunk.
I know I set the precedent about our custody, but I do agree to 50/50 custody, and I wasn't going to put the kids between us. She moved out, and I work full time, so I needed her to care for the kids, and they needed her. Our kids are still little. I did sort of agree to her moving out, as I couldn't have her living in our house while having an A with another man, of which I have proof. I don't think the state requires me to tolerate that. I asked her to end her affair and stay and work on the marriage, and she refused.
Her actions have forced me to divorce her, so doesn't our state allowed me to put the entire burden of the legal expenses on her?
