You are making some great changes, especially with making progress in detaching! I love what your D8 said... kids are just honest! My kids are teens but it was some of the things they said that really created some turnaround for my H. It seems a WAS often can "turn off" their empathy for you, but it's much harder with the kids.
Keep being mysterious and less available... it seems to be creating some curiosity for her. That is a good thing!
