Please help! I have a Walk Away Wife...

[Gardener]

hforh,

I think the only thing I need to take care of for are the rent, utilities and food.

Yep. Don't subsidize anything. I would ask her each and every day what action she took that day to find a job - any job -and what her job-hunting plans are for tomorrow. Be ready for a possible I-need-the-internet-for-job-search. She can go to the library for that.

She said she wants to learn how to stand on her own two feet

Feed this line back to her when she complains about internet, no job, anything $-related. If she complains some more, tell her, "I am not going to subsidize being dishonored in my own home," and disengage, leave.

Sorry to sound so jaded it is just that if I don't vent somewhere it will come out there and I do not want that.

You don't sound too jaded. Vent away.

PLEASE help...All of a sudden I am REALLY emotional and very unsure of things and how to handle them...I know this is part of the process but I am not even sure how to handle things when I get home Friday all of a sudden or what to do until then with all of this. Sorry if I seem weak but I know if I do not reach out or get it out here I will screw things up majorly. I am enjoying the changes in me and that is why I am changing but I still get these overwhelming feelings especially when it comes to her and OM.

Normal. I've found an immediate change in activity and location helps with that. If possible STOP what you're doing, go somewhere else. Get removed. Get active, physically. You are the only one in your situation who is doing anything positive. What you're doing is honorable. You are a man with a plan. Remind yourself of that. Review your plan. Review the very real and surprisingly many improvements, plans, actions and behaviors have entered your life situation in a very short period of time.