But, to paraphrase hoosiermama, it doesn't really matter. The kids and I will spend the next several years putting ourselves back together after whatever-it-was sucked the soul out of the person I married and thought I knew better than anyone else on the planet. It doesn't really change anything. It just plain sucks, and it sucks worse than anything that I've ever experienced.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.