I'm starting to understand how we got in this crisis.
Understanding is half the battle. Once you understand, you can make better decisions and actions based on that. I think you are pretty sharp.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
H is away for a week. He called last night to talk to the kids. After each child talked to Dad, I got on the phone to discuss a kid related matter. Before I could start talking, H started telling me all about his day. We talked and laughed for about 10 minutes, and I told him I had to go.
When I acted as if I had moved on, my H couldn't have cared less. Once I started taking an interest in him, he started opening up a little more. A few months ago, he wasn't even speaking to me. I know he's being nice because I asked him to be civil, but it's a start.
I know he's being nice because I asked him to be civil, but it's a start.
It is a start. MWD says do what works. Sounds like that is what you are doing.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I'm starting to understand how we got in this crisis.
Understanding is half the battle. Once you understand, you can make better decisions and actions based on that. I think you are pretty sharp.
Kevin
Thanks, Kevin.
Call me crazy, but I'm starting to think this separation was a good idea. I've been able to see changes I need to make in my life. Changes that will make me a better person and parent. If we reconcile, that's great, but if not, I need to get into a place with him where we can be the best Mom and Dad we can. I have no problem being his friend. Like I said, it's a start.
I have no problem being his friend. Like I said, it's a start.
Building a bridge back has to start somewhere and it isn't likely to start if you are at enemy levels. I agree with you.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I know he's being nice because I asked him to be civil, but it's a start.
It is a start. MWD says do what works. Sounds like that is what you are doing.
Kevin
I don't know if it's working as far as getting back together goes, but we are talking and doing what's right for our kids. If that's all that comes of it, I'm okay with that.
I have no problem being his friend. Like I said, it's a start.
Building a bridge back has to start somewhere and it isn't likely to start if you are at enemy levels. I agree with you.
Kevin
Right, and I'm in that odd situation that you are in. Kids. We may never be H and W again, but we will always be Mom and Dad. We will be grandparents together. It just makes sense that we get along. I've thought a lot about it, and I don't see a problem with us being united as parents for our kids.
