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[awest1217]

H text me last night and this morning. Last night "sleep well. i am thinking about you." and this morning "just wanted to say hi. hope you have a good day". I haven't responded to either text because I am not going to allow him to just go back to how things have been the past 9+ months. We are coming up on the anniversary of OW becoming an issue in three weeks and the anniversary of him first moving out the end of March (he didn't officially move out until end of April, but March is when he would be home for a few days and gone for the rest staying with OW at her house when her husband was gone). I am done with him having fun, but not committing. I feel bad, but this is the first time in this whole thing where I am actually mad at him, and I have come to the realization that my life is better without dealing with his drama. I want him to come back and things to work out, but it is now time for him to show me he has changed and make the change. He said for the last few months he doesn't want a divorce so now he needs to start acting that way.

I will see if he takes the next step and calls. Should I answer if he does or ignore him like he did to me? I think if I do talk to him he will try to talk like the last two and a half weeks did not happen and I don't think I can handle that. I would go straight for, what are you going to do to make this different. I don't want this to be just because he misses me, but because he really is ready to make us work.