It seems like she likes the more frequent calls. That more solid friendship (plus the occasional romance) is definitely a step in the right direction,s o I'm not sure why you avoided calling her - trying to keep from pursuing?
That is a great quote.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Yep, I think it just rubbed me the wrong way. Called W last night and talked for a while. She canceled on FIL several times yesterday, was feeling really bad again after feeling good on Sunday. She sounded very frustrated.
She's meeting with FIL today to take care of "financial stuff". Wonder if he's pushing her for D? He's also trying to get her out of her apartment lease, which she can't afford. He likes to write nasty letters to get things done. Good luck with that. Her lease is through May.
I hope she doesn't sign a new lease, and felt like telling her that. Maybe I will.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Well dang. ML is always a nice birthday present. My hat is off to you.
Jon, I think you are playing this as well as you can and she is responding in a lot of positive ways. I do see hope for your M. Keep up the great work.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Why don't you want her to sign a new lease? So she can move back with you?
Telling her that will challenge her independence. It may come off as you implying you don't believe she can do it on her own. Be careful of that, she's really trying to grow on her own and she needs to do it by herself. Now, if she got her own place back close to you, that would be pretty sweet lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Good advice Michelle! Yes, I'd hate to see her locked in Houston for another year. Just seems like she keeps putting up artifical barriers (I already moved, it cost $$$, etc.), and using them as excuses.
Her choice though. If she wants to badly enough she'll move back.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Great talks every night this week. Told W that I rocked the Wii bowling in our office, and turns out she's a massive Wii fan. SIL has one. Never knew that, fun times. I joked that she'll have to come to my office and play.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
That article is bizarre. I guess retailers will do anything for business. I guess stability doesn't actually keep them in business, people marrying and divorcing and moving a lot helps them sell more. *rolls eyes*
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Great weekend, had a gig with my band Saturday night and then church and football all day Sunday. Also got a lot of work done for my 2nd job. I enjoy it, but don't really have a day off or weekend any more.
I have some pretty bad canker sores, which only come when I'm really stressed. It's been a while, really since I was in school. I use some medicine every morning but they're bugging me. Still, stressed out and too much work is a very nice change from the past year.
Talked to W a bit yesterday, she's excited about the new Palm Pre on Verizon. I went by a Verizon store after work to check it out, and called her. Phones are fun for us.
Had a great band practice, the best yet, then called her. She sounded withdrawn and quiet immediately. I asked if she was tired, then tried to chit-chat for a little while, and finally she said "my B and SIL had a miscarriage today, so I'm very down about that." I told her I'm really sorry, hoped she'd have a good night, and let her go.
It's tough. Her brother is not a fan of me right now. Also bothers me that W, in the midst of her health and financial problems, still gets sucked into the family stuff. Her brother makes a ton of money and already has one kid. Yeah, this tough, but compared to her? It's like she carries the world on her shoulders for everyone else, and they just expect it and take it for granted. I did once as well.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
