@antlers: It's a damn shame that it takes something like that to bring about positive change in ourselves. But it does...and it did.
I agree absolutely. Though in a wider context, isn't it nearly always the case that we change only in response to a major external stimulus / crisis / event?
I can almost hear that late-nite teevee announcer voice: "Stasis -- the human condition. But wait! There's more! With every Stasis you get this fine-quality Complacency at no extra charge! You pay only for shipping and handling!"
On a more serious, if also more conventionally cliched note, it speaks to the importance of communication in a(ny) relationship. Even STBXMRSSP is now -- now! -- willing to admit that "maybe" she could have spoken up and made clear to me just how dissatisfied she was: "Obviously it's not like you couldn't change." Uhhhh, day late and dollar short much?
