There's a bit of a fine line between blaming oneself for the breakup of the marriage and exploring--and forgiving--what you did to contribute to it. I've gone overboard with that at times, trying to push thru it and face my demons with a vengeance, and it just has to take as long as it takes. it can't be rushed (to my frustration) and as long as you maintain honesty with yourself you'll find growth. and this whole thing is too sucky, too painful, too destructive not to end up growing thru it; otherwise you're wasting the suffering.
That's great insight...thanks.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
