Where in the world did that come from !!!

[sandi2]

She probably refused to sign anything b/c of some legal hold. Don't know if that would hold up in court or not....if she had signed it. But since she got part of her things and you think she may come back when you are gone from the house, couldn't you change the locks? If you have given her a certain time frame to collect her things and if you think she may get more than agreed upon.

Just a thought.

After this invite to go to the C's, I would not bring it up anymore. You have more than made your feelings about the M known to her. I think if you persist, it is pursuing.

[blownaway65]

Agreed on both points.

I think it is not legal to change locks because she owns half the house, but I have made sure the kids ring me if either her or BIL turn up while I'm away.

[blownaway65]

Not sure how important the rest of the stuff is to her, she has tonite & tommorrow till it goes - or maybe she isn't seeing thru the fog and A chemicals clearly.

There is a collection of childrens books that she has been collecting for years and has been very passionate about.

Pretty sure she is at OM's tonite. Maybe she doesn't think I will actually go thru with getting rid of it.

She's in for a rude shock if she does come expecting it to still be here!!

[blownaway65]

Well I set the boundary, and stuck to it. She never came back to get the rest of it and now it's gone to a better home.

I think she has now moved in with OM, so I'm ready for a long haul.

[sandi2]

What did you do with that collection of children's book?

[blownaway65]

Just to be sure that I can't get in any legal trouble, I packed everything up and have taken it to my parents place.

They will store it all till 'whatever happens'. As far as W knows it is gone though.

[blownaway65]

Well, haven't heard anything from W about MC, not that I expected to, so it's now IC 4 ME.

[blownaway65]

So while I was having my nice 1 on 1 with IC, 3 kids were getting free fillings @ Dental Surgery where W works - she will walk out and tear our family apart, but still make sure the kids have nice teeth - how sweet.

Anyway she invited them over for dinner Friday night at BIL's (bearing in mind she hasn't been there for a week as far as they know). They said would think about it.

They told me when I got home and I just asked each of them if they wanted to go, all said NO.

Will be a simple text to her from them saying same as before "No Thanks".

I really felt like adding "None of the kids want to see you knowing what they know about sitch now, They will seriously disown you when they find out about A and living with him", but I won't do that, yet.

I did read over in the Infidelity forums though about a sitch where exposing to the (almost adult) kids and them confronting WW stopped the affair in it's tracks and brought WAW back.

Maybe food for thought.

Anyway the 2 interesting thing to come out of IC session were:

1. Even if WAW were to have an 'epiphany' and want to come back, would you really want her back, and could you have her back ? Way too early to think about that yet but it does raise some reservations in the back of my mind.

2. Get a Life for yourself !!!!

[blownaway65]

I just realized while writing that, I feel calm, not agitated, upset, depressed or any of the other emotional crap I've been feeling for the last few months.

I actually now feel that it's ME that has control over ME !!!

[blownaway65]

W hasn't moved in with OM, she is still living with BIL - just spending a lot of nights with OM. Must be costing her a fortune in petrol, all the travelling.

W texted D17 last night to see if they were coming over for tea - D17 texted back "Oh Sorry we forgot and are already cooking ours" rather than the simle p"No Thanks" we had all discussed.

W's reply was "Oh OK, next time then". At that stage she was still at BIL's, but this morning her car was gone so I guess when the kids didn't come over she took off to OM's.