PS....compare this to my posts from early 2008. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I agree. She's terrified of losing the kids in the legal sense AND the emotional sense so she is desparate to make you look bad. It's NOT working. That's why she is amping it up so much. She is running out of time to prove how wrong you are and how right she is...and she's not winning. If it weren't so horrible for the kids to see, I'd feel sorry for her b/c she's spiralling and knows she is losing the battle on most fronts and FEARS on all fronts. We'll see.
Stay on track. You are so close now FIB...it really will end. Like pregnancies, even THIS can't go on forever -- even when it seems it will...
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Thanks all. My L wrote 2 really powerful letters to her L and forwarded copies to the LG. I forwarded copies of my letters to the FC last week. I was able to meet my kids and STBXW at the FC appt today. FC saw me near the end and, not in these words, basically told me my stuff means nothing in front of a judge and it isn't enuf to get custody. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I am on the train this AM for an interview in NYC. There is an assistant professor opening. I have no choice but to pursue any avenue to remain solvent.
As I sit on the crowded train, I wonder about an impending custody battle that everyone seems to say that I have a snowball's chance in hell of winning.
F
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I so wish that New York family law would pull its head out of its ass and take notice of what other states are doing. Shared physical custody works great and is what is best for the kids.
Frank, it sounds like you have resigned yourself to accepting defeat. If you were standing where we are, what would you say to a person in your shoes?
I am on the train this AM for an interview in NYC. There is an assistant professor opening. I have no choice but to pursue any avenue to remain solvent.
As I sit on the crowded train, I wonder about an impending custody battle that everyone seems to say that I have a snowball's chance in hell of winning.
F
Well, what have you got to lose? I'm asking sincerely. Maybe there's something I'm missing but your L is a good one you trust. What does SHE say? And I for one, think there is value in fighting for something that's right, even if you lose. Winning matters but fighting is what counts. You want the kids to know you tried and they'll know. If you resign yourself, you quit. Don't quit. If your L tells you it's time to step aside gracefully, that's different. From what she is doing and what you say about your w, you hvae to fight so that when your kids are a bit older, they can choose. They won't know to choose you if they don't know you fought for them. Just my .02. I could be wrong but that's what my gut tells me. I wish NY would wake up too. God...such idiots...
Yes, well as someone smarter than me once said, "If the law says that, then sir, the law is an ass." Hey, anyone else feeling like getting involved politically? When you get your energy back, we'll chat about that.
And good luck on the job interview. You'd be a very good professor and if it's more stable income...then good. Please tell me you won't have to pay stbxw more...(sigh) Oh, though I so hate to carp -- WHEN IS THIS OVER????
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
