ML, Interesting that he offered a ride. I think your X is making some progress now. He'll probably disappear again and then pop out again after this? I guess we will see.
I am glad that he called his aunt.
I think you are like me in that you are watching what happens now.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
I think you did the right thing not getting a lift. How is your son feeling with his next chapter in life approaching?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
so son and I set off to walk to his school, who was parked up with engine running near to the end of the side road we had to walk past,,yes you guessed ex, he set off and pulled along side us and asked if we wanted a lift, what more could I do because son was with me but get in, anyhow we went to the parents meeting, no feelings no nothing left inside me now towards ex he didnt even make my heart flutter. we read sons report together and discussed a few items, had a laugh or two and then went in to meet the teacher, this teacher is the same one that son as had all the way through exs happenings so she is well aware of everything, she praised son so much for how well he as come on attitude, manners and everything she is totally overjoyed into what a marvellous person my son as turned into, so different to the previous years. so yes folks what I am saying is this crisis does have an effect on the children and it is noticeable to teachers as well. anyhow I felt the need to update the teacher on what was happening in my sons life now, ie being in touch with his dad and also stated that this seems to have made an improvement to sons happiness, ex was sat at the side of me whilst I made my statement to the teacher, and son was facing,, son said when we came out did you see dads eyes fill with tears when you told teacher everything, so I suppose there is guilt there somewhere. I merely told teacher as she as been full of support for son throughout all this and indeed asked for updates on sons personal life, I didnt tell just to put ex on the hotspot, I also thought the teacher had a right to know who this strange man was sat besides me seen as though I have been on my own to these meeting for the past five years, by the way he also gave me a lift home, that is two lifts in five years.
Mandy, Well, that's interesting. I wonder if he will find another way to try to do you favors?
Ultimately it is good to hear that your son is doing better with his dad in his life.
How good to hear that he is becoming a fine young man! I am happy for your S; as I mentioned, your X's lack of contact with S made your story one of the more heartbreaking ones on here....
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
forward, thanks for your reply. I wouldnt think ex will try and do me another favour, I think in a way what happened yesterday was me doing ex a favour, he was definately hiding up the side street in the car and was early so he knew we would be walking past that way, due to the fact that wherever he goes nowadays he is late, he was half an hour early, and I think the fact that he hid to catch us walking past was merely because he didnt want to be on his own going into school, but whatever the reason I am glad he came to parents day for sons sake, and son was glad too. son is indeed a lot happier than he was for some 3 years or so. we will see how the road progresses, as I said I sat next to ex yesterday and didnt fell anything towards him and that is hard to say coming from someone that loved that man with all my heart, but no there is nothing there,
No matter his reasons, he got to the meeting for son. One has to give him credit for that. I am glad that you don't feel anything for your ex - a measure of peace and distance, and you can deal with him with no emotion.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Yes, it is great that your son is doing better because his father is again in his life, but your son is doing as well as he is doing because of you and your stability.......You have a lot to be proud of..
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I thank you all for your replies, Trusting I especially thank you for your kind words, Yes I do have a lot to be proud of and my oh my I am one proud mother x
I find that when I see him, which is less frequently, I do have some feelings that come back, esp. if he seems to be getting his act together, which is attractive.
That is partly the reason why I do not want to have contact w/him any more--the feelings begin to bubble up. Some anger, some affection and sadness.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
