Can a hysterectomy have changed my wife?

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There was a request for me to drop over here because of some of my experiences and research.

The short answer to your question is yes, a hysterectomy can and likely has changed your wife though the hormone answer may not be the relevant one in your case. So, in one sense, she may be correct about you not knowing what you are talking about relative to hormones.

On the other hand, a hysterectomy is a permanent and sudden change that means, as pointed out above, the end of child bearing. If your wife does not face that, then she is swimming in that river in Egypt. It is one thing to have menopause gradually sneak up on you, it is completely different to have it enforced by a surgical procedure.

And there was a reason the surgical procedure was performed at a young age. Given what you've posted elsewhere, you may be little more than a convenient scapegoat for what she's feeling.

As for rhe sense of changing, you ultimately will have to be specific (with her) as to what happened before the hysterectomy and what happens or fails to happen now. You are perfectly positioned to notice that, she is not. But it will have to be specific, something that can be measured, not just some "feeling" you have.

Given her age, even without the hysterectomy, she would have been in a transition (mentally) from one phase of life to another. This may have been the trigger that made it all the worse for you.

The Captain