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[gutwrenching]

Uneventful evening. Kids though, go to love them, sometimes they say things that you couldn't bribe them to say. D8 says to W, "mom it felt like you were only gone one day." W replies is that because you had good time with dad. D8 then enthusiastically says "yes" and proceeds to rattle off every fun thing we did together. All I could do to hold back jumping out of my seat to go hug her and give her a high 5.

Journaling now more than anything:
Maybe some progress detaching today. W heads to basement again this evening...and it doesn't bother me one bit. That is a step in the right direction. She told what work she had to do and my comment was "that sounds like a late one" at which point I had made up my mind, I was going to bed at a decent time without her. but she immediately said "oh gosh no, we have to get up early to workout"

And, some of the 2x4s sinking in. I'm going to go down there later, my house too, I need to set up the computer for the workout video and I'm not doing it in the morning. I can give her some space, but that doesn't mean she gets to take over that part of the house.

W for first time in a long time, acted like a partner in this whatever we have these days (M, R, ?). She made dinner, she cleaned-up after dinner, helped get the kids to bed, etc. It was almost a shock. And when we went grocery shopping for the week, she even picked up a couple of things that she knows she would have to make, I don't know how. So that possibly implies she'll come home at decent hour for a change...guess I'll believe that when I see it.

Also she was surprisingly interested in what was going on with my work blackberry. As I was looking at it at one point, she asked if had got something, I said yes, and she asked what. That seemed a little strange for someone who just a few days ago didn't seem to care less what was going on in my life, work or personal.

Her temper/fuse with the kids is still short. That bothers me, but holding my tongue for now. Not that she is mean or abusive or anything like that, but I can see her blood boiling after little provocation...she used to be much more patient.