My story, what to do next.

[MarkG]

Sounds good. Another idea of the approach now that you mentioned it is to make her wait until she sees your whole POV. My W gets into the accusations in every conversation, and while I do validate, I have the same situations. She talks about this time she "felt like" I was unfaithful (July), and there is some validity in that, but she fails to realize how important it was she had PA with 2 men (May and July) before our split and the current EA/PA (Aug-Nov, Dec-current). 1 of the other men was supposed to be EA as well until she found out she was OW to him and he was just playing the field. In Nov she told me how heartbroken she was about OM not taking her back after she dumped him, I told her how heartbroken I was after she left. I think my being needy during that convo was what drove her back, because after she left OM and made comments like "we're probably not getting divorced but I have to work on some issues" I pretty much had it til I ran too fast. Remembering our last breakup in 06 the sex started before the R. She left in June that time, came back to town in Sept, started sleeping together around end of Sept beginning of Oct, officially back together on xmas. But back to my current, W and OM have the reasoning skills of children and overreact and throw fits. Because of the fact social services has custody of the kids (who do physically live with me) she needs a 2BR apt/house before she can get them back, she had OM move in to help her pay for the place she can't afford. They then realized they couldn't afford it together, so they also got 2 roommates.... so much for the girls' bedroom. What she doesn't realize is that social services won't return custody with OM or roommates present, and she'll have to keep the place herself. They've supported their lifestyle so far by his rubber checks, so I'll assume it's not long before they have no rent money and are evicted. Our D5 has not yet accepted the separation as permanent, and the counselor that supervises W's visits twice a week has to constantly remind her of things such as keep OM away during visits. I'm pretty sure she didn't think this all through very much so I think I'll just wait this out until something eye-opening happens to her because I doubt if it's very far off.