I know because she said she just woke up and one of our mutual friends and her had been chatting for a while about OP online. I told friend to stay out of it but she keeps trying to help. I didn't take the call. She left a voice mail saying she forgot I was working and had to be in bed, that we would talk tomorrow and she loves me. I may not take her calls tomorrow. Only thing is she takes it as a sign that I do not want to work anything out. But you know some things have to begin to stop. She knows I am moving forward but maybe she does need think I am moving on...A lot to think about. I will be cutting off the internet as soon as my mobile modem comes in. Ordered one from Verizon through my plan today. That way I still have internet access. I will also be telling her that if she gets her own service she will not be able to use my computer for what she is doing. There are some boundaries that need to be established out of basic human respect.When I get back I will work a balance of what I have learned in DR and the 5 love languages. But mostly I am doing me. Definitely be working out and I have some friends that want to take me out. She will resent this because she mentioned today she is tired of having nothing to do but watch tv and get on the computer. Of course her job search is none too well but I think she is trying to sabotage that so mom and dad will take her in. Of course that could be a good thing because then she will really feel life. Her dad will not take care of her long and OP says he is moving to like four hours from her parents but I do not see that happening either as he has no career and lives with his mom.

Maybe close to LR...Still do not quite think it is that time yet though. Keep the advice coming please cause I am taking it and running. I want to change even if we do not make it but I really do want to stay married to her. She really is a good person...just lost...