Lola, I'm hearing grief. You had something, and now it's gone. When you are ready to move on...know that you are loveable. I hear that you are in touch with your expectations, your feelings, and I've long admired your strength.
You are open to love.
When it's time, the right person will appear.
I doubt it's your current Hus.
I will join that prayer of yours that you are able to get over the 'old' marriage. There were some parts that you liked, but face it, there were some parts that needed to change, too.
love, Goldey