ugh--I just re-read what I wrote and gagged on it's triteness. it's just a matter of putting who-did-what in perspective. and having a "label" gives you a framework for doing that in many ways. and it helps when you go back and reclaim who you really are when you're not in a relationship that requires you to be who someone else wants you to be.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012