I read your story and I am sure you know by cruising the site here a bit that it is unfortunately the same song and dance that many of us have lived (or are living) through. You will find that some of the stories have happy endings and others take a little longer to get there (with or without our spouse/sig.other). I agree with Gardener...take the time now to work on you. Try to figure out what you really want in your life...with or without her. Focus on your daughter. She will always be your light and keeping her happy and healthy should be #1 priority for you. However, to do that, you need to take care of you and make sure that her life goes on as uninterrupted as possible. Her mom is almost definitely dealing with a lot of junk right now that she will never understand and you have to do your best to be solid for her. Continue your soul searching and read some more of Michelle's books. Married or not, if your relationship is worth working for, you will need to be the one to keep the ball rolling. Stay strong and keep posting here. You are not alone!


Trust in yourself...you are the only one that can guide your future...

Me-28
X-30 QLC-just separated from OW after 3 yrs
M-3yrs
Tog-8yrs
D-3yrs
Bomb-8/5/06