Well you talked about everything but marriage. You've been with this woman for over seven years.....you are engaged to her but you never M her. She had you child.......I mean, why the heck did the two of you never make it legal?
Several people have asked me this since we broke up. While I cant speak for her, on my end, I slowed down on the desire for marriage because she was very bad with money and she had such a short fuse that I was afraid she would do what she ended up doing anyway, getitng mad and walking out on me, only with us being married things would be even more complicated.
In hindsight, not only do those reasons seem insignificant, but the assumption that marriage may have complicated matters may have been completely opposite from the truth. Instead of us being essentially done in her mind right now, we could instead be separated but not divorced.
Or maybe not.
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
And you are STILL making this all about what you want. She says she wants out, but YOU want her to come back.
So you are still being the same selfish person she always saw in you. IF she wants out then so be it. LET her go. Stop contacting her. Stop trying to win her back. Anything else is making it all about you again. You are basically tellling her once again.. "I don't care what you want, give me what i want. I want to stay together, I want you back, I want another chance"
She doesn't want that right now. Let her go.
Well...I have been doing better about not contacting her than I did when all this first happened. With our daughter, it's unlikely to not have any contact. But I have been making efforts not to be the one to contact her but instead let her call or message me, and I've tried to limit the topic to our daughter.
She's made several (likely insignificant) contacts with me that havent really had anything to do with our daughter. She just got a new car with satellite radio and called me the other day to ask about what stations were what and how to find the station she wanted.
Along with that, the day she got the new car, she called me, had me come to remove the carseat from her old car and move it to her new car, saying neither she nor her dad could get it out. It literally took 30 seconds and was effortless. She then asked me if I wanted to go for a ride in the car and that I was the first person to ride in it.
Stuff like that is weird and even messes with my head a little. If you dont want to be around someone, why call them about stuff like that.
