Remember that your S is hurting and in pain. It must be a terribly confusing time for him. Of course he should never speak to you like that . There is no excuse. Is he getting any counseling? He really needs to talk to somebody.
S is home now and was kind enough to inform me my H allowed him to meet the OW and she is NICER then me and she is as gross in person as she is in her picture however he would rather be with her then me - I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS...WTF???
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
S is home now and was kind enough to inform me my H allowed him to meet the OW and she is NICER then me and she is as gross in person as she is in her picture however he would rather be with her then me - I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS...WTF???
Sometimes I feel like throwing my hands up in the air I know I can count on you Sometimes I feel like saying "Lord I just don't care" But you've got the love I need To see me through
Sometimes it seems that the going is just too rough And things go wrong no matter what I do Now and then it seems that life is just too much But you've got the love I need to see me through
When food is gone you are my daily meal When friends are gone I know my savior's love is real Your love is real
You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love
Time after time I think "Oh Lord what's the use?" Time after time I think it's just no good Sooner or later in life, the things you love you loose But you got the love I need to see me through
You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love
Sometimes I feel like throwing my hands up in the air I know I can count on you Sometimes I feel like saying "Lord I just don't care" But you've got the love I need to see me through
You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love You got the love
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Hey girl! It's time to stop focusing on anyone other than you. I think the OW is new to your S, just as she is to your H. Ok, not in the same way... But she has never had to atually be his parent, so it's no surprise she's "more fun"! It will wear off, in time. He'll remember who really loves him!
S, don't think I've ever written anything to you before...
For this...
Originally Posted By: Serenity13
S is home now and was kind enough to inform me my H allowed him to meet the OW and she is NICER then me and she is as gross in person as she is in her picture however he would rather be with her then me - I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS...WTF???
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Originally Posted By: Virtually_Handsome
It's time to stop focusing on anyone other than you. I think the OW is new to your S, just as she is to your H. Ok, not in the same way... But she has never had to atually be his parent, so it's no surprise she's "more fun"! It will wear off, in time. He'll remember who really loves him!
Remember what spew is? That's what your son is doing now... spewing... to intentionally hurt you because he can't get his way with you.
If I was you, I'd insist that he go stay with his father. H won't let son cramp his style. Don't take "no" for an answer from H. Let son HEAR his father's rejection. Don't get in the way of it. Don't protect him. It's a lesson the little shirt needs to learn... the HARD way.
They don't know what they are saying. They don't even realize how much the words hurt. They don't mean them. Your son is angry. He will get over it. You are a mother. You aren't done with your son. No matter how mean he is to you, you will always be there for him. Hold your tongue. Go dark. Let it all rest. As long as no one is out on the street. Everyone has a bed to sleep in. Don't worry about it. Your son will not reject you for long. Believe me, I had a hateful son. He is 26 now and he turned out to be a nice guy. Growing up is hard. The situation you and your kids are in is even harder. Someday he will understand what he did today, and he will apologize to you for all he is putting you through. But now, it is like childbirth. It hurts like hell, and it won't stop for a long time. But in the end, you will be glad you went through it. Find a friend to talk to. Someone who can sympathize with what you are going through. Tomorrow will be another day. i hope a much better one.
