All of Byron Katie's stuff is tremendous. I used The Work to help me shift my thinking around my H's EA, to help find some peace and take actions that were in alignment with what I wanted.
Oh, I'm really excited to hear about someone using The Work as part of the DBing process, especially someone whose marriage has survived some bumps.
Well, The Work is really about detaching and acting in accordance with what you want/need and letting go of any notion of controlling the outcome. It's a natural fit with DBing. It's why I could look at my H and say, "H, make a choice. Continue speaking with that hoebag you had a crush on or stop. If you choose to continue talking to her, I cannot continue in this M. It is your choice."
Had to be done, because that was what was right for me. Of course I would have been devastated if he'd chosen otherwise, but I'd let go of the outcome.
Sorry to hijack
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Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
