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[awest1217]

MIL called tonight to check on S since he is still not completely back to normal. Then she asked if I had heard from H at all. I said no, and she asked what was going on. I then asked if she really wanted to know what was going on. She said yes so I told her the short version of everything. Those of you who have read my sitch know that my inlaws have met OW so I could use her name. I told her that OW was staying at the house at least once a week. She said they could still be just friends, but I said that it is still inappropriate no matter what (big for me to stand up for myself). I said how H hadn't paid anythign until October. How we haven't talked since school started and how he hasn't even tried to see S. She said she is concerned and I shared in that. She said that she wouldn't let H know I told her, but I said I am past H getting mad at me. He needs some help so if he gets mad oh well. I said my FIL should talk to H, but he has always said that H should make his own decisions and they should stay out. I agree, but H is past making a decision. He needs some psychological help. MIL said she is glad to hear everything because H never talks to them either. I said that I am at the point where I know D is probably coming, but H needs help and that is more of what I am concerned about.

It stayed very factual, and just let MIL know exactly what is happening. She still said let them know if I need anything so that was good. We will see what happens. She still does not want to believe that H is at fault, but she at least admits that H needs help so that is the best thing ever. She is mostly concerned because it is not like H to not try to see S at all. She believes me more and more that I am not keeping H from S because of the way I have acted, like Kemper said above, and how H is acting so more and more I am believing that I am doing the right thing not only for the situation, but also for myself and S.

I am feeling stronger and stronger every day and happier and happier. It is nice!