Trying to move on

[Kemper]

CTH,

Otherwise, it was the same look I've seen on her face since the start. Certainty. Certain that she doesn't love me anymore and may have never loved me. Certain that a divorce is the only thing that will make her happy. Certain that there's no point to attempting to reconcile.

I'm certain that she's wrong, that she did love me and does still, it's just buried under depression. I'm certain she'll realize it someday, but she may be too stubborn to ever admit it. And I'm certain this is going to be the tragedy of my daughters' childhood.

I could have written the exact same thing as that is how I feel as well.

When will I give up hoping?

She is the mother of your daughters. At this point I don't know that I would ever give up that feeling. I think the best thing for my boys is to have a happy family with their Mom and Dad. Not a happy step-family but who know what will happen in the future. I am sure only time will change that feeling/thought. At this point though as hard as it is I don't want to give up that hope.

C-Bart,

You just want to shake her and say "this is the situation you created you big dummy."

If that would only work I will be doing it every day. I know exactly how you feel.