Looking for Advice

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Thanks Rocked. Right now, seems like a good approach. Will see if others chime in and will monitor for a couple of days, hopefully. Before the first exposure, I had planned on waiting a few days but then go so mad/disrespected at the blatant texting going on with me in the same room, that I called her on it right there. That was a mistake, but not a large one, so hopefully I learned my lesson.

Today just odd. Seems like I say that a lot. We both slept in, she offered to let me continue to sleep and take the girls, but I didn't want that so I said no thanks and got up and made coffee. A short while later she says to me we need to do our workout today. That shocked me, I was planning on approaching the workout subject this evening with the I'm going to do it regardless, would you like to join me.

Then she couldn't stay awake and took a nap and I played with the younger daughter. When she woke up she said she doesn't know what happened, but probably because of the sleeping pill she took last night plus the fact "I haven't really slept in months"...not sure to make of that comment. She has already asked me not to ask her how she slept because it annoys her cause the answer is usually crappy. Before all this EA began, she slept great, heavy sleeper. She had never told me before that she hadn't slept well in months.

After working out, I showered and put on my other new shirt. She did notice right away. Said "new shirt when did you go shopping"...I said oh "the other day after work"...so maybe she was just too out of it last night, but two for two today on noticing and commenting/asking about new clothes.

The workout was good. I made sure to stay positive about it and comment how much I got out of it. She told me that is why she was so addicted to this type of workout a few years ago...and I tried the DB technique of affirming that and saying I can now understand why, I have never tried this type of workout before but I am becoming a believer.

Next is grocery shopping...she still hasn't noticed the cologne...maybe in the car or at the store...will see.

Will continue to monitor actions/attitudes.