"If I don't contact him, am I reacting to him because I feel like I don't want to see him?"
Well, this is a motivating factor many choose for NC- because it hurts to see the other person. The other being that NC helps to detach. And some hope NC makes the absence grow fonder. So who cares if the reason you don't contact him is what you stated?
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"If I were truly making progress on detachment, wouldn't it not matter if I saw him or not?"
Yep.
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" I could ask for help with pulling together the house $ info for taxes--this would be the sort of gentle 180 of not being so independent that I was looking for all those months ago."
Yes, this could be a good opportunity to show you are not too independent to accept his help BUT if you want to avoid talking about the house, then this would not be good.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
