I did want to say that the dark has been for me, and it has been good as I do feel twinges of sadness/tension when X is around.
I have a sense of humor back, work is going somewhat better, and I have been making new friends/restoring relationships with old friends.
I've been feeling better physically, plan to teach a class, and have developed some new hobbies and interests. I am starting to want a new relationship. And, as I said, I am not sure that I see the divorce as a bad thing at this point. I have experienced a lot of personal growth. I think X has, too. But I am not sure I can respect him ever again.
So at this point I watch and comment.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D