Running out of time.

[Kemper]

Cie la vie,

No issues on the response time. Totally understand not having access and needing to respond from work.

How does your snooping affect you? While I agree that you found some useful information does it make you feel any better? Most of the time the snooping only makes people feel worse. In a healthly relationship you shouldn't have to snoop. I realize that none of on this board are in a healthly relationship but if it doesn't make you feel better then why continue? If you hit you head against the wall many, many times and it still hurt after doing it would you continue?

She mentioned to me last night that the kids had a B-day party to attend for classmate but she opted to send the nanny to it so she could go for a hike. This is an example of the selfishness and shift in her focus away from the kids and onto her. I didn't say anything, just got up and and went to work (this morning).

What would happen if you let the nanny go? I am not saying to do it but you could save a bunch of money per month and esp. since your W isn't working would that be the best thing? I guess what I am saying is it might be something to think about.

I'm not sure my W will wake up under any circumstances, at least that is what I tell myself so that I do not get my hopes up.

I am in the same camp. Today was an angry day where I don't understand what my W is thinking. I will probably never know but it just kills me to think about how she never attempted to work on anything but is content to throw it all away.

The problem with that is the house will have long since sold and the damage will be complete.

While you might be attached to the house it is just a material item that can be replaced by another material item. What can't be replaced is mommy and daddy having a happy R/M and the children seeing that and experiencing it. That is what concerns me the most. Every single material item we have can be replaced by another. My "family" cannot be replaced.

My days snooping are coming to an end as the W will be out of the home by the end of next week.

I think this is the best thing for you personally. Without "knowing" then you will have the ability to focus on yourself and allow you to TRY not to think about what the W is doing.